In general a person’s feeling of belonging starts with self acceptance! In fact a person’s level of belonging, can never be greater than your level of acceptance. This helps you to believe that you’re enough and also gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable, and imperfect!
Finding a feeling of belonging is hard and sometimes almost impossible until you can find a way to accept yourself. But how does one go about finding self-acceptance!?!? Since this is an issues I also struggle with, I wanted to do some research and find some tips that might help one find self-acceptance. The list below is what I found helpful and hope that this might be helpful in finding your self-acceptance.
1. Celebrate your strengths by writing them down.
2. Consider the people around you and if they are beneficial to you.
3. Find a support system.
4. Forgive yourself.
5. Find a way to quiet your inner critic.
6. Realize that acceptance is not resignation.
7. Speak to your highest self.
8. Be kind to yourself.
9. When all else fails, fake it till you make it!
I know that personally over the last several years I have really struggled with where I fit and where I belong. It’s hard to find a friend group where you fit in because most people who aren’t sick either don’t care to figure out what’s going on in your life. Or don’t care to figure out where you are In their life. And you can’t help but to assume that they are walking away or turning their back because of something you did. When in all honesty it has nothing to do with you. I also have struggled to find my place in the career realm of my life. When I was in nursing school and if someone had told me I would work for ten years as an RN, and then become too Ill to work, I would have laughed at them. But that’s where I am, I am no longer working in the medical field. Instead I’m selling makeup to pay my bills, which I could never have imagined.
I have been using the tools I listed above over the last year. During that time I have found a way to accept myself for what I am and where I am in this show called life. And by doing those things I am slowly starting to figure out where I belong in this world. I have found a great group of ladies who support me in the least likely of places, in online support groups. I have also found way to bring in money and pay my bills without asking for any help from anyone. This hasn’t been a quick process. It’s taken a long time to figure out for myself. Another big tip I have for anyone who is struggling with finding self acceptance or finding where you belong is to use that time to try out new things you think would be a good hobby. If you always wanted to crochet learn to crochet. And once you are confident in your skills you could start making hats for newborns and donate them to the hospital. Or if you like to read you join a book club. In doing things like that you will not only be finding a place to belong but also self-acceptance!
I hope and pray that you can use some of the tactic I’ve discussed and find the areas where you belong and can find self-acceptance.